GAY GLORY HOLE ETIQUETTE
Getting and Giving Good Head at a Glory Hole

Before we launch into the etiquette surrounding gay glory hole sex, it might be a good idea to explain what a glory hole is (just in case you stumbled in here out of curiosity).

What is a glory hole?

Glory holes range in size from pencil-sized peep holes to holes large enough to sit your ass in and receive a good fucking. But generally speaking, most of us have encountered glory holes that are big enough to shove your cock through and receive a blowjob.

They are usually found between private video booths in adult book or video stores. But it's not uncommon to find them in washrooms (particularly in gay bars), at truck stops, in public washrooms in bus and train stations, or even shopping malls. Almost anywhere you find public washrooms, you'll eventually find a glory hole. In fact, there are whole websites devoted to letting gay men know where (across the country and the world) one can find gay glory holes and whether the blowjob action is any good, or indeed safe.

A hole is usually placed in the adjoining wall at about waist height so that it's comfortable for both the giver and receiver of a blowjob. How these holes are created without drawing the attention of security or facility staff is beyond me. I find the public washroom glory hole a little too dangerous for my tastes. My glory hole kink is the receiver of my blowjob not knowing who I am; I don't get turned on by danger or the potential of being arrested.

And thankfully there are clubs that cater specifically to the glory hole blowjob crowd. Back in the 80s, I remember visiting a club in New York City called "The Glory Hole." It consisted of a maze of roomettes (just large enough for one, maybe two men) and inside each room were three holes, one of each walls. It was kind of cool to open the doors and see the various configurations: one cock, two asses; two cocks; three cocks; two asses, and so on.

In Toronto, there are a couple of places where glory holes abound. The Cellar is a bathhouse that has several rooms with glory holes, and in fact, one of them connects two rooms, so if you're neighbour is obliging, you can watch him have sex. The Bijou was a video club with a large viewing screen and a dozen or so televisions placed throughout the maze of hallways. There are several booths and many of them contain glory holes. However, I'm not even sure if it's still around.

It's Slurp Ramp was the subject of great public controversy when the media found out about it. But it was a glory hole cock sucker's delight. Guys looking for a blowjob can mount the stairs and stand on the ramp with their cock sticking through a glory hole. Guys looking to give a blowjob remain on the floor and magically the dicks pop through the glory hole at mouth height. Of course there's little secret about either person's identity, but there was still something very hot about the experience. I've given many a blowjob at the Bijou's slurp ramp and I can attest to the level of comfort. No sore knees to worry about so you can carry on with the pleasure of sucking a nice piece of meat.

What is glory hole protocol?

Who does what to whom? It's pretty simple really: If you see a dick sticking through a glory hole, you can be pretty sure the guy on the other end wants a blowjob, maybe he just wants a hand job, but it's unlikely. Doesn't everyone prefer a blowjob over a hand job. Likewise, if you peek through a glory hole and see some guy on his knees, the chances are good that he wants to suck some cock.

Now that's the obvious, but what if you enter a video booth and there's just a guy sitting in the next booth watching a movie? Then what? Well, you could always just peek through and ask whether he'd like his cock sucked. However, most of us aren't that bold, so take a seat and pop in some tokens and get the movie of your choice rolling.

Check out the guy in the next booth. If he checks you out and starts (or continues) jerking his cock, then he's probably interested. If he just stares at the video screen and doesn't pay you any attention, he's probably not interested.

Myself, I'd move on. But if he's interested and checking you out, there's a little more gymnastics to go through before you get or give a glory hole blowjob. You have to figure out who is going to do what.

If you're looking to suck some cock, you can always just get down on your knees in front of the glory hole. If the potential recipient doesn't immediately respond you might lick your lips or stick out your tongue. If he still doesn't get up and shove his cock through the hole, he might be either looking to give a blow, or looking for someone to watch him jerk off, or perhaps he's not interested and you misread the signs.

At this point, standing up and sticking your cock through the glory hole will resolve the issue pretty quickly. But make sure your dick is at least half hard, or you may not get much interest from the other side. (Of course, if you've got a huge cock that's probably enough to get some attention.)

In clubs and bathhouses with glory holes, it's customary to flop a towel or rag across the glory hole so that it flags to passers-by that there's someone on the other side. Usually, if you're on the inside (i.e. in the room or booth) your looking to give a blowjob, and if you're on the outside of the glory hole you're supposed to stick your cock through.

What about cumming?

Just because a guy is on his knees at a glory hole does not means he wants you to blow a load of cum in his mouth. You can always ask, but this is problematic because when do you ask? Again, by following a few signals and gesturing, you should be able to assess the situation.

First of all, if you're getting a blowjob, this is not the time to be shy. I'm not suggesting that you scream your head off, but you can let the person on the other side know that (a) you're enjoying yourself and (b) how close you are to cumming. Some deep breathing, a few groans, or an "oh yeah, suck it" are usually helpful to your glory hole cock sucker.

We still haven't established whether he wants the blowjob to end with cum in his mouth, so when you're getting close it's polite to withdraw you cock from his mouth. You don't need to put it away and leave, but simply pulling out, perhaps saying, "Oh fuck I'm close," or something like that will let the guy on his knees know that you're close.

If he's interested in taking your cum load, he'll probably get right back on your cock and carry on with the blowjob. If he's not interested in having you cum in his mouth he'll either take a break or grab your cock in his hand and start jerking you off. At this point, you'll have to decided whether you're satisfied with a hand job or whether you really want a blowjob. If it's the latter, move on to another glory hole.

Glory Hole Safety

Just remember, if you're in a public washroom and using a glory hole, you're risking arrest either by private security guards or police men trolling the washrooms. If you're lucky the security guard or cop will let you off after you suck his cock. But that's a whole other scene and pretty unlikely. It's more probable that you're going to find yourself detained and charged with public lewd behaviour, or something like that. A private security guard may write you a "do not trespass" order, which is considered a warning not to return to this private property again. If they find you there a second time, you will be arrested.

And finally, just because you're sucking cock through a glory hole doesn't necessarily mean you're dealing with other gay men. You still need to exercise caution. A guy might be into getting his dick sucked through a glory hole because he can't see the cock sucker, but afterwards, if he sees you, there's potential for physical violence if the guy is extremely closeted, in denial, or extremely homophobic. How many straight men beat up hookers after they fuck them? Just because you have given a man a blowjob doesn't entitle you to any special treatment in his eyes. So be careful and exercise caution when you're entering, using, and leaving glory hole areas outside of the sex club environment.